It’s that time of year again – the time for all of those procrastinators to get all of the year’s lessons and learning in one day! I, like many people, love to reflect on the year on the last day possible and set out my new year intentions for the future (not resolutions…..see previous blog posts!).
So…. what were the your biggest lessons from the year? This is one of the reasons I love to keep planners – I go through them the last day of the year and pick up on the things and themes I’ve experienced. Below are my lessons of 2018:
- Balance and Boundaries
Balanced is how we all want to feel but it’s difficult to achieve! It means having an average of ups and downs – we can’t avoid the negative and we can’t negat the positive! Both are necessary in flux to create dynamic harmony of balance. To be balanced you need boundaries and to evoke boundaries you need to experience balance. Boundaries are also in a dynamic flux – somethings we need to endure and others we need to escape. Depends whether you feel uncomfortable or if you feel unsafe. You can’t avoid everything and sometimes you need to step outside of your comfort zone to grow, however, you shouldn’t stay in a situation that is not serving you in someway or for the sole purpose of pleasing others or fear of change.
2. Let go and carry on
Let go of what no longer serves you. Tired beliefs, relationships, jobs, situations, traumas, etc. Holding on to the hurt of trauma just for the purpose of using it as a reason to relinquish responsibility only hurts you as it hinders your healing. If it no longer serves you it no longer hurts you. Putting blame on extenuating circumstances just gives your power away from evolving. You deserve better.
3. Find your empathy
Love always wins. It doesn’t scream loud but it feels loud. Self love is the key to healing. It’s having enough empathy for yourself to forgive your faults and celebrate your strengths. It’s the positive self talk that tells you that you are loved and everything will be okay. Sometimes it’s just as hard to love yourself as someone whom has harmed you (and sometimes it’s us that has harmed us and it’s hard to love that person). See things from other’s point of view (and if was you that harmed you, see yourself in the mindset you had during that time). Hurt people hurt. That’s why we say horrible things to ourselves and others – hurt, not hate. Everyone deserves love and compassion. If someone is not in the place to accept it, that is their choice. Despite all the hurt they spew they still need love, acknowledgement and forgiveness. Empower with empathy.
4. Be true to you.
This one could easily be a bumper sticker. It’s a simple statement, yet difficult practice. First we need to know who we are in order to be true to it. That involves deep divulging into our personality and psychology. We need introspective reflection to cultivate external expression of our true person. Or if you want it in straight tween millennial lingo – “you do you”.
Wow. Looking back at all of that’s it’s definitely been a year of growth and gratitude. Now is the time to implement those lessons and learnings into the new year. Use the lessons of the past to be present in the future.
Have a wonderful last day of the year everyone!