We are on week 2 of women’s health month – new moon, new topic. For this week I wanted to address common symptoms that women come in with in regards to physicality and outward appearance – skin, hair and weight.
Once again I’ll reiterate that there seems to be themes attached to astrological shifts. The week before the new or full moon I’ll have patients come in with the same complaint or “theme”. The past week has been all about self worth, boundaries, and hypersensitivity about physical appearance. The new moon on Tuesday was in the sign of stable and stubborn Taurus – all about security, finances, physicality, and stability in life. It’s during those times of stability that we become more attune to what is disresonant in our life. When our outside doesn’t match our inside, in the most simplistic terms, we feel disresonance, and are called to change in someway.
When women come in wanting to address weight loss, the reason behind it is usually the same – “I don’t like the way I look”. It’s the same statement for young girls that come in with acne “I don’t like the way I look”, “I want to be pretty”, “I feel like others are judging and making fun of me”, “I don’t feel comfortable in my own skin”. Skin – skin is the key word. Skin is your outward protective layer – it’s your armour, it’s your boundary between the outside and the inside world. If you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin, of course you are going to reject it metaphysically and it will begin to break down or burst out to create a fragile yet rigid protective physical layer. Hence, we need to address the uncomfortablity, the rejection of your physical self, the reason you are trying to hide from the outside world behind a protective shell. If you don’t address the person inside the shell, the shell (or skin, or protective barrier) will not change.
It’s interesting how such a physical symptom, as weight or acne, has such a mental emotional theme. That’s the reason weight loss programs may not be sustainable – if you don’t address the reason why the person has difficulty with weight you don’t “fix” the weight problem. If you feel you are only worthy if you lose weight then the weight loss is not sustainable. Your weight is not the health problem, it’s the symptom. Finding the multifactorial causes of it is the key to sustainable weight loss (or gain). Physical causes can be thyroid dysfunction, fatty liver, nutritional issues, cortisol excess, insulin insensitivity, heavy metal accumulation, etc. Mental-emotional causes typically involve self confidence, self esteem and self worth. Is it the weight gain that creates lower confidence or lower confidence that leads to weight gain? It truly is a cycle and flux of both. Where does this line of thinking come from? Do we inherit familially that we need to “look good” in order to be accept? Were we criticized for our physical appearance by our peers or family, negatively affecting our confidence? Is it the media influence with the constant bombardment of beauty and weight loss ads of linking thin and blemish free with beautiful? In the midst of this media multiverse it’s our family member’s (typically mother figure) job to diffuse this disillusioned message and help their children discern what is true and what is fake, to see the beauty in their personality and skills. Yet if the mother figure believes herself that she is only worth her physicality, how could she teach her children any differently?
Everyone’s journey may be different but the destiny is the same – we have linked self confidence and self acceptance with our outer beauty. In this mindset, if we confine to social norms we will be accepted and loved. Unconditional love comes from within. Your confidence shines through outwardly and this is your true beauty. Confidence is the best thing you can wear. When you are confident, truly confident and love who you are, it shines through and illuminates your physical beauty. You don’t need an outer protective layer because no one person can hurt you with their words or opinions because you know they aren’t true and don’t resonant with how you feel, or know, about your self and your true worth. Confidence is your protective cloak and it grows with unconditional love. When it comes to health confidence is at the core of every issue. Hence, the way for weight loss to be sustainable is if you are confident and love yourself regardless of your size as then you are able to let go of the weight because you don’t need it as a protective layer or a superficial barrier for your fragile self worth. It is imprudent to release emotions tied to the weight in order to release the weight itself – YOU ARE NOT WORTH YOUR WEIGHT. Weight gain is a sign that the body is unbalanced, and to treat the weight we have to treat the entire self. By “treat” yourself that means “treating” yourself with acts of self care that prove to your energetic self you are worthy of love and care. Finding love for who you are and not how you look. Creating congruency between the outer skin and the inner self. You are worthy, you are deserving. Your self worth is not measured in weight, it’s measured in love.
See your beauty everyone – inside and out 🙂