The most interesting thing about doing a detox program (see Healthy Happy Detox) is the emotional “stuff” that pours out of you that was hidden so deep that you were unaware that it existed. I was triggered into this line of thought by my interaction with my patients (like usual, hence having them is such a gift) as well as the new single by Alessia Cara – scars to your beautiful. Last week a patient had mentioned to me that she just puts on a smile regardless of how she’s feeling so she doesn’t upset others with her emotions. I mentioned how that people whom are sensitive to emotions/energies, like children, see right through that. And she agreed, saying that her child is never fooled by her fake smiles and always ask her what’s wrong (children are the best truth tellers, and they are wonderful with confronting you with that truth). Rather than stuff your emotions deeper with a forced smile, why not face them straight on and acknowledge them. Experience the emotion and understand why you had it (that way you can release it and a real smile will emerge). We fear having emotions because they make us “unpretty”, so we stuff them down and internalize them. We aren’t perfect, neither is the world (not is it plastic), and we should express and celebrate the people we are.
Feeling your emotions is an exercise I suggested this week to a patient. Rather than fear the emotion, allow it to happen and investigate behind it. Ask – “Why am I upset?” “What triggered this?” “Is this a buried emotion coming to the surface?” That way you can acknowledge it and begin the process of releasing it and releasing the negative thought from your mindset (ie. change your perception). I equate it to going into the basement and seeing a “monster” in the corner in the dark. Rather than run away, approach it. Then you’ll see that it’s a coat rack rather than a monster, and you’ll never be afraid of the basement again.
Illusions become real thanks to the power of perception. We believe what we see because we create what we see by what we believe. When we compare ourselves to other people, we compare ourselves to an illusion of what we wish to be. How many fake smiles are in the world? It’s when we face the illusion, we look further and beyond the physical, we see the true self. That beautiful girl we see on the street may be hurting on the inside, we just may not see beyond the beauty to the person’s true meaning because we fear that we aren’t beautiful like them and avoid getting to know them because we are ashamed we aren’t as beautiful as they appear. It’s just like avoiding the emotion.
As I mentioned earlier, I’m a big fan of Alessia Cara’s new song, especially the video. It goes beyond the surface and showcases people’s true beautiful (their personality and their self love). Scars are superficial and physical, but they represent emotional hurt going on in the inside. If a person is crying, sometimes we are afraid to approach them because we fear emotion. If we see beyond the emotion, the physical, we see our true self and the true person. Scars are scary, but they represent something deeper. They represent the internalized emotions that come to the surface that need to be acknowledged. See beyond the surface, the illusion, see the true self. Once we accept and love ourselves, than the outer physical becomes a true representation of who we are because the inner beautiful radiates outward.